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I don't know if you’re like me and ever thought something along the lines of ‘when I’m more (insert appropriate trait), I’ll be able to (insert appropriate thing)’ or 'when the kids are older, I'll be be more (insert appropriate way of being)'.

 

Like I’m waiting for the right time for to start being and living the way I want.

 

But what if right now is the right time to start life 'properly'?


What if you have the ability to be more happy, more grateful, more confident in your business purely by visualising those very things and feeling all the emotions that go with it, as though it was really happening to you?


This blog explores more about how and why full-body visualisation could help make this happen and gives you an exercise to try and see if it helps you start to think, embody, and behave the way that you really want to in your business.

 

I'll be drawing on a book called 'Breaking the habit of being yourself: How to lose your mind and create a new one' by Dr Joe Dispenza and things I've learned from the introduction into Somatic coaching that was part of my coaching training with Optimus Coach Academy to look at this aspect of helping you become the motherfucking CEO of your business.

 

So I invite you to get curious, see if these ideas fit with something you'd like to try and explore it with me.

For me, I had kids, lost myself a bit in the early mum life haze (that for me lasted nearly 10 years) and was waiting until life started again. Often I would think to myself 'remember when' and think of a time with friend where we were just laughing hysterically until our faces hurt or when I used to just lie on my bed and read with the sun pouring in the window and felt the ultimate calm. Nobody needing anything from me, I was just being.

 

But there had become a real sense that these things were all just events that happened in the past and that one day I might get them back like once the kids left home.

*(google is telling me that in 2019 the average to move out of home is 24.6 years old....well fuk me, I ain't waiting until then to get those feelings of happiness and calm back in my life!).

 

The bit that clicked about stepping into no longer waiting for the right time to start life was when I read Dr Joe Dispenza's book that touches on Quantum Physics - the notion that our future more wealthy/happy/healthy self already exist as energy in the form of atoms/energy....we just haven't allowed ourselves to observe it yet (whaaat?? straight away I was like, 'amazing, that form of me is out there somewhere, I’m going to create her!' 😂).

 

In the book he recounts a study done by the HeartMath Institute where they took a group of people and split them into three groups, all with the aim of winding or unwinding a vial of DNA.

The first group were instructed to bring up positive feelings of love and appreciation while they held the vials of DNA - there were no statistical changes recorded.

 

The second group were instructed to visualise unwinding or winding the strands of DNA while they held the vials - there were no statistical changes recorded.

 

The third group were instructed to bring up positive feelings of love and appreciation AND visualise unwinding or winding the strands of DNA while they held the vials - in some cases the DNA was wound or unwound as much as 25%.

 

Dr Joe states that if your mind can influence something like DNA, then theoretically, it can influence the appearance of any possibility.

And that possibility includes the healthier/wealthier/happier business woman that I was waiting to think, embody and behave like, until the time was right.

Then I came onto the Somatics module of my coaching course with Optimus Coaching Academy.

 

‘Somatics is the study of the self from the perspective on one's lived experience, encompassing the dimensions of body, psyche and spirit'.
~ Thomas Hanna

 

From what I've learned, the notion that 'the body never lies' is the premise behind Somatics and by tapping into our bodies, new things emerge as we bring the unconscious parts into our known conscious. By learning experientially, this gives us more possibilities than we had before and can bring about profound shifts.

 

During the course, our trainer, Somatic expert Natalie Joel-Smith took us through a visualisation exercise that on the face of it should have been a happy, positive experience. We were told to think about somewhere happy and I pictured myself where I grew up in New Zealand on the beach. As the visualisation neared the end, I found myself sobbing uncontrollably. Although I had been telling myself that not being able to go to NZ because of the pandemic was fine, my body was clearly telling me that I was missing it.  In the following days I experienced a real lightness that I can only attribute to that release and things felt a lot lighter.

 

Since then, I have been able to concentrate on happy memories that happened closer to home here in the UK and start firing up more positive experience neural pathways as I relive those lovely moments in my life. Whether that be to do with my business, my family, my friends - it really can be applied to any positive experience in my life.

 

And so I would like to share a similar visualisation with you so that if you wish, you can too give it a try. Regardless of the emotion, I always find it a really empowering experience - much like the people were able to change the DNA - I feel like I have control over how I want to be in the future.

 

It may also interest you that it is possible to take the visualisation exercise and record yourself saying it through an app called 'ThinkUp', which allows you to put music in the background; the idea being that it’s far more powerful when your brain is listening to your own voice.

Visualisation Script

It’s time for you to take this time for yourself.

Nobody wants anything, nobody needs anything.

Take 3 deep breaths to send the relaxation response to your brain.

Now, think of a positive memory that you had, a time where you were really XXX (insert positive feeling to recreate)...

And just invite yourself to see if you can really enjoy that experience as if you're in it right now...

If you feel comfortable, close your eyes or just soften your gaze to a place in the room you're in...

And just transport yourself back to that memory of a time when you felt so XXX (insert positive feeling to recreate)...

What can you see?

What can you hear? 

What can you smell?

What are your feet touching?

What can your hands feel?

What can you feel against your skin?

See if you can really enjoy that experience, right here, right now, inviting that experience in with your whole body...

 Invite yourself to stay with the experience for a few moments, for a few cycles of breath...

Then in your own time, when you feel ready, thank the memory for being here with you...

Perhaps let it know that you'll be back...

Maybe you take a moment to say goodbye like you would to a loved one...

In your own time, open your eyes slowly and soften your gaze as you take in where you are and come back into the room.

 

Then perhaps ask yourself:

• Is there anything that you have learned?

• Does it give you information about what you care about?

 

Using visualisation and tapping into how you felt, it is totally possible to relive those positive feelings of love, happiness, gratitude through visualisation.

Perhaps you may want to use it to generate feelings of courage when you need to do a live video on social media, or asking your audience for their opinion or when you go to put out a new offer.

My plan is to do a visualisation everyday for 21 days and journal around how I feel in that time. I'd love you to join my world and if you decide to do this too, let me know how it goes!


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